29 August 2022
The Christian Men's Red Pill community expresses a great deal of angst about how to find a worthy woman to marry.
I'll agree that America is a total mess with feminism taking over the entire social fabric. Most churches are highly compromised, having taken the Blue Pill to the hilt. I've often tried to explain how this is the natural result of a western background. The Germanic races bore the very deadly flaw of regarding females as inherently morally superior to males. While men were not supposed to worship any female deities, they did revere them. It was all reflected in a basic fact of life among those tribes prior to civilization: the wergild for women was twice what it would be for a man of the same social rank.
Thus, it's no surprise that, as long as everyone clings to western culture in any form, they cannot possibly ditch feminism. It will always be there to some degree. It's rare to find churches that aren't locked into the Blue Pill mythology of feminism. Where is a Christian man to find a decent wife?
That's the wrong question.
The real question is: How do we claim the Covenant promises, which promises include raising families? I stand with a few others insisting that my good marriage was a miracle of God, not because I did all the right Red Pill things beforehand. I didn't have a buff body until after I got married. I suppose I can confess to having some social charisma if only because I had been a preacher for a few years before marrying. I already knew something about holding the attention of large numbers of people, and was comfortable with it. Still, I was by no means any kind of apex male specimen.
And yet, the Lord provided a wife who was the perfect match. I'll give her the credit due her; the things I really wanted her to change were things she was ready to comply with. And how could I not change? It wasn't just marriage that changed me, but time spent pursuing God's Word and Covenant. That marriage was woven into the fabric of my faith, so it was just another aspect of God's work in me.
The honest truth is that I share something with just a few other men from my generation, in that I was perfectly willing to remain celibate. I came rather close to it after a couple of disastrous romances when I was in college. Those women were not God's will for me. It had nothing to do with their being sinners; I was no better on that account. Rather, it was unwise to keep them in my life. They were not good wife material for a man with my calling.
Thus, the issue has always been faith first. I needed to listen to my convictions about whether, when and whom to marry. And that's the same rule for all the other things in my life. If I wasn't ready to do without, and serve Him under all conditions, I was not fit to have a wife. She needed the testimony of faith to keep her on track, too.
No, I will not promise that this Covenant life guarantees a good marriage, or any marriage at all. It could easily, especially in this time of tribulation, mean no marriage. This is a very bad time, so about the only way you could find a godly wife right now is by miracle, just like I did. You must be committed to the Covenant first, and not bear with you some angry assumption that God must deliver the goods, so to speak. He owes you nothing; you owe Him everything.
Because so few Christian Red Pill men walk that path, it's no surprise they despair. It's no surprise they talk endlessly of all the rules for Red Pill manhood. I broke most of those rules, so that kind of thinking misses the point. There's nothing wrong with examining the things we know work in the flesh, but such things are no constraint whatsoever on the hand of God.
And it's in His hands that you need to find yourself. This is what disappoints me so much about the Men's Red Pill movement. It's all kinds of good advice in the flesh, but rarely do I see someone talking about how faith is the key to all of it. And God help you if you try to suggest to them that their rules aren't that important when God decides to work.
So, if it's a self-proclaimed "Christian" presentation, where is Christ? Jesus was a Hebrew mystic, so your cerebral and fleshly discussion of what's in the Bible guarantees you are not following Him. Let's establish faith first, then flesh out (pun intended) how we are going to make the most of His work in us.
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